Iām fighting so hard to not reach out again
Iāll tell you something from my personal experience. Last year I decided to give dating apps a go. š±
I met a couple of men who claimed to be interested in being exclusive with me from the very beginning. Even before I had decided to give them a chance.
Very soon after that, I found them on other dating apps. While they were chatting with me or even having dinner with me.
So what did that teach me?
People donāt want to be exclusive. Itās a lie.
I wanna be exclusive though
I want to have my ride or die
I want them to be my best friend, and someone to experience life together with
Honestly it would be a miracle if life turned itself around
Yes, itās very legit what you want
Although you might be looking for in the wrong place I think
Iām not looking on here
You mean looking in the wrong type of people?
Honestly Iām convinced he might actually be a good guy, and I just scared him off by getting so overly dependent so fast. And being upset when there actually were no spoken boundaries in place
Life together is very high expectation nowadays. Take it easy. One step at a time
But you are telling yourself a story of personal blaming
For different reasons, you didnāt feel comfortable. It could have been him, or you, or the communication, or the lack of it, or your needs not being metā¦.
Maybe this is about what she expect about him
Expectation can lead to dissapointment
You said: āIām convinced he might be a good guyā
This is your fear of being alone speaking.
He could actually be a good guy, but for different reasons, you donāt seem to be ready for a relationship
My advice dont get attach for new people u met just take it slow and get to know each other until u can be sure though.
>>> You said: āIām convinced he might be a goo...
I think this must be it.
I donāt know what to say to people who start on long relationships at such a young age. Sorry, I canāt help you.
I shouldāve had lower expectations. Weāre not official and we hadnāt set any specific boundaries
I trieddd. Like I really tried. We jusg had such good chemistry
For what reasons? I have plenty of love to give. Why wouldnt I be ready for a relationship
For the things you mentioned
Being scared of being hurt again (cheating)
I donāt see how anyone would not be scared of being cheating on again
Developing dependency easily
I have been in the past and I am not scared of that
I mean, you can do what you want. Go into a relationship if you like
But you donāt seem ready to me from what youāve told us
Having a successful relationship takes time to get to know the other person, to see if youāre compatible and if your values and goals in life align.
Itās not just having plenty of love ready to give.
(Thatās being vulnerable for predators, in my opinion.)
Thatās when you get hurt.
Because you feel you are genuine and your intentions too, but then you find out not everyone elseās are.
