May I ask for some advice? I don’t want to interrupt if anyone is getting help first
So I’m in a relationship of 4 years (first relationship) 10 months ago I started to get very disappointed in the relationship for many reasons. I would join a game called vrchat and made a really close guy friend who made me happy and comfortable. After a year of knowing him and a while of a unhappy relationship I started to get a crush on the vrchat guy
8 months ago I tried to brake up with my current bf but it was messy and I didn’t like how it went had a lot of what if questions. So the break up last less then 24 hours. Once we got back together I ended up having an emotional affair with the vrchat guy (I didn’t know it was a emotional affair at the time)
The next 6 months sent me into a deep depression because my bf started to use many manipulative tactics and isolated me from all of my friends
To this day I’m still very depressed, and unhappy with the relationship, I want to break up but my bf is saying a lot of stuff to keep me around (stuff I don’t know if I can talk about on here) i know what I have to do but I don’t know if I’m strong enough to brake up with my bf
Sorry for the long post, believe it or not this is the short version 😅
I know, but how do I do it without him… doing something really bad
He threatened to hurt himself if I did it
I have a very close family but no real friends anymore, he’s made quick work of that
I don’t live with him (thank god) and I can look into stuff like that
Thanks, this has been a really long emotional roller coaster. Sadly the vrchat guy lives in a different country because I genuinely think if he lived closer I would have a easier time to break up with my bf
Thank you guys so much, it honestly means a lot, I felt like I was going crazy and in the wrong for feeling this way
you two are absolutely right, I need to focus on myself. If everything works out I’m definitely going to take things slow and just stick to being friends at the moment
I’m in a really bad relationship where I feel manipulated and hurt all the time, however he has said that he would hurt himself if I leave. The best way to describe the relationship is that it feels like a addiction, I know it’s bad but I can’t let go
