friendship should be the time to learn the person and the relationship is if you both want more from it

Agreed but sometimes you learn to much

it’s better to learn that as friends than in a committed relationship

Eh sometimes if just friends it’s pushes the real action ship to an end thought and it could work out but just that one thing ends it.

this is why you need to talk to the other person, you can go into a friendship with another person knowing that more could happen and that both of you would be open to it if things worked out

Sadly this isn’t how the world works

it literally is, i’ve done it before 😭😭

And your single now it seems

because i didn’t want a relationship with the person and it saved me and her a lot of heartbreak

Exactly so your advice is just trash to some aspects

how? we both decided it was in our best interest to stay as friends what’s the problem with that?

It’s not a relationship anymore the goal is to be in a relationship not be friends with every girl you get with

the goal of a relationship was never set in stone, the goal was to find out if i wanted more

Okay but In general you don’t want every girl you get with just to be your friend in the end

yeah but also don’t want to be in a relationship with every girl i meet, it goes both ways bud

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Didn’t say you did but the advice you gave is pointless you really gonna waste months to be Friends with a girl when you can just get with one and go from scratch

i mean i’m just saying what works for me and what i want in case others feel the same, obviously my advice is up to your own discretion. that’s why it’s called advice

Yeah but some take others advice to literal so u add the context of saying this is what works for me

well that’s on them, they should make their own decisions 😭

If u want a long-term relationship, u have to put in the work. Most relationships where people just ‘get together and start from scratch’ don’t work out in the long run

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Most

Yeah? A staggering majority. If ur not after a long-term relationship, do whatever. Just don’t complain when it doesn’t work out

And sometimes when u get to be friends with someone, u realize that u don’t actually want anything more and u both just live as friends instead of getting into a relationship that is doomed to fail. However, sometimes a relationship can be stunted because either one or both parties grow accustomed to the pattern of friendship and are too scared to do anything else

That’s a lot of experience

thats the downside, though generally you should try to be friends with someone at least 3 months before you try to get into any sort of relationship with them

Why 3 months?

that’s just what i go by because it gives me enough time to learn the person

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You’d think something so simple would be easy to understand 🥲

it’s easy to understand people just aren’t willing to put in the time. everybody is focused on the short term rather than the long term benefit

hence why hookup culture is a thing

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