friendship should be the time to learn the person and the relationship is if you both want more from it
friendship should be the time to learn the person and the relationship is if you both want more from it
Agreed but sometimes you learn to much
itās better to learn that as friends than in a committed relationship
Eh sometimes if just friends itās pushes the real action ship to an end thought and it could work out but just that one thing ends it.
this is why you need to talk to the other person, you can go into a friendship with another person knowing that more could happen and that both of you would be open to it if things worked out
Sadly this isnāt how the world works
it literally is, iāve done it before šš
And your single now it seems
because i didnāt want a relationship with the person and it saved me and her a lot of heartbreak
Exactly so your advice is just trash to some aspects
how? we both decided it was in our best interest to stay as friends whatās the problem with that?
Itās not a relationship anymore the goal is to be in a relationship not be friends with every girl you get with
the goal of a relationship was never set in stone, the goal was to find out if i wanted more
Okay but In general you donāt want every girl you get with just to be your friend in the end
yeah but also donāt want to be in a relationship with every girl i meet, it goes both ways bud
Didnāt say you did but the advice you gave is pointless you really gonna waste months to be Friends with a girl when you can just get with one and go from scratch
i mean iām just saying what works for me and what i want in case others feel the same, obviously my advice is up to your own discretion. thatās why itās called advice
Yeah but some take others advice to literal so u add the context of saying this is what works for me
well thatās on them, they should make their own decisions š
If u want a long-term relationship, u have to put in the work. Most relationships where people just āget together and start from scratchā donāt work out in the long run
Most
Yeah? A staggering majority. If ur not after a long-term relationship, do whatever. Just donāt complain when it doesnāt work out
And sometimes when u get to be friends with someone, u realize that u donāt actually want anything more and u both just live as friends instead of getting into a relationship that is doomed to fail. However, sometimes a relationship can be stunted because either one or both parties grow accustomed to the pattern of friendship and are too scared to do anything else
Thatās a lot of experience
thats the downside, though generally you should try to be friends with someone at least 3 months before you try to get into any sort of relationship with them
Why 3 months?
thatās just what i go by because it gives me enough time to learn the person
Youād think something so simple would be easy to understand š„²
itās easy to understand people just arenāt willing to put in the time. everybody is focused on the short term rather than the long term benefit
hence why hookup culture is a thing
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